I am always amazed how you write so candidly about feelings thoughts and truth. Thank you for this post. I am elated that it wasn’t you and someone else came to you for information. As a friend or relative there are times you want to help someone with an addiction but can’t because you don’t know how. I myself have talked to you about a stepson’s addiction. I like the fact that you said their use of drug was a step side ways and not the standard slip. I have heard before the standard if you don’t want to slip don’t go to slippery places or if you don’t want to slip don’t hang with slippery people. I never understood that concept. People like yourself who share their lives will run into a slippery person inevitably. The way you handle it and the words you use show the person you have become. I am so thankful you are doing this blog and are sharing you. People like me who are not addicts need you to help us help people who are. THANK YOU
I like challenging the 12-step's mindset of a "relapse" as if it's a set-back. Sometimes it is. But what does it mean "he didn't make it." Make what? To the five-year medallion? Is he using still or has he stopped? Immediately? After a week? If he stopped, that wasn't a relapse, that was just the 12-step's outdated idea that we our recovery is some sort of a race. Personally, I am most impressed with people who "relapse" and come back. However many times it takes. If they're alive and still trying that means they're recovering.
I agree. Sometimes, it feels like a competition. 30 days... 90 days. Medallions are prizes. Comebacks are best. They speak of courage and humility. Not pride.
Also, I'm really happy you're here. I attended your book launch. I like your writing. Thank you.
I am always amazed how you write so candidly about feelings thoughts and truth. Thank you for this post. I am elated that it wasn’t you and someone else came to you for information. As a friend or relative there are times you want to help someone with an addiction but can’t because you don’t know how. I myself have talked to you about a stepson’s addiction. I like the fact that you said their use of drug was a step side ways and not the standard slip. I have heard before the standard if you don’t want to slip don’t go to slippery places or if you don’t want to slip don’t hang with slippery people. I never understood that concept. People like yourself who share their lives will run into a slippery person inevitably. The way you handle it and the words you use show the person you have become. I am so thankful you are doing this blog and are sharing you. People like me who are not addicts need you to help us help people who are. THANK YOU
Great blog Christian.
Thank you for that 💕
I like challenging the 12-step's mindset of a "relapse" as if it's a set-back. Sometimes it is. But what does it mean "he didn't make it." Make what? To the five-year medallion? Is he using still or has he stopped? Immediately? After a week? If he stopped, that wasn't a relapse, that was just the 12-step's outdated idea that we our recovery is some sort of a race. Personally, I am most impressed with people who "relapse" and come back. However many times it takes. If they're alive and still trying that means they're recovering.
I agree. Sometimes, it feels like a competition. 30 days... 90 days. Medallions are prizes. Comebacks are best. They speak of courage and humility. Not pride.
Also, I'm really happy you're here. I attended your book launch. I like your writing. Thank you.